Be Your Own Pride

 Be Your Own Pride

A happy and full life depends on you being proud of who you are and what you believe in. This is particularly true when it comes to your identity, including your gender, sexual orientation, race, and other characteristics that set you apart from other people. Having your own pride is recognizing and appreciating who you really are, no matter what people may feel or say. It's all about accepting your own value and loving yourself—flaws and all—just as you are.

Being your own proudest is vital in today's culture. Owning your identity entails refusing to let others stigmatize or treat you unfairly because of who you are. It's about defending your rights and taking pride in your accomplishments, regardless of how significant or insignificant they may seem.

Having a supportive and accepting community around you is one way to be your own best advocate. Look for allies or people who share your identify in your friends, family, or support groups. These folks will give you the support you need to feel more secure in who you are and will provide you a safe place to be yourself.

Celebrating your identity is one more way to feel proud of who you are. Embrace and take pride in the qualities that make you special. Take every chance to express your pride and defend your principles, whether it's by donning a flag or other emblem that symbolizes your identity or by going to celebrations of your culture.

To help you be your own pride, consider the following advice:

Celebrate your individuality and embrace the fact that no one is exactly like you. Accept the peculiarities, passions, and character traits that make you unique.

Instead of obsessing on your shortcomings, pay attention to your strengths and the things that make you successful in particular areas. Appreciate your successes and be proud of your skills.

Exercise self-care: Being your own pride depends on you taking care of your physical and mental needs. Be sure to obtain adequate sleep, exercise, and healthy food, and set aside time for enjoyable and happy activities.

Establish limits: To safeguard your personal wellbeing and maintain your sense of self, it's crucial to establish boundaries with others. Saying no to requests that conflict with your principles or cause you discomfort is nothing to be ashamed of.

Surround yourself with positive individuals who will encourage and support you. You might feel more assured in your abilities and self by being exposed to positive influences.

Being your own pride isn't about being flawless; rather, it's about accepting who you are and working to improve upon it. In order to be proud of who you are, accept your individuality, concentrate on your strengths, practice self-care, set limits, and surround yourself with supportive people.

Finally, being your own pride means resisting attempts by others to define or restrict you because of who you are. Don't let prejudice or misconceptions from society control how you conduct your life. Instead, work to lower barriers and make the world a more welcoming place for everyone.

In conclusion, embracing your identity and defending who you are key components of being your own proud. Finding a supportive environment, embracing your individuality, and removing obstacles that impede your progress are all important. So let your pride show and be proud of yourself!

Attitude : "Fixed Mindset" or "Growth Mindset"

When it comes to success, people easily think that successful person , blessed with the special intelligence gifted to him by God and makes us to believe that we rest of are the particles of dust and nothing else . we can not able to do anything  . In another case one will not try to do just because he or she becomes the part of joke or other will point out mistakes . 

                   Nothing need proof and explanation but if see the success stories we find that they also face rejections, shamed and feel like nothing , but one thing that they do continuous approach until they get what they want from their life. Like : Sir Amitabh Bachchan  was rejected in All India Radio Station just because of his baritone voice but now we see he is the soul that lives in the most of the hearts. Even our 14th Prime Minister of India Sir Narendra Damodardas Modi was a tea seller at Railway station  and many more success stories are there if we go through those stories , we find that nobody on this planet is inherit with all the traits . 

                    when we see a person leading his life with all pleasure and a very comfortable life , what we feel in our heart that yes he or she can because he or she is inherited with it or God gifted but this is not always correct . Today is the era of doing something even after achieving  what we want from life. Continuity is the flow of this time.  To stay at a point is not in the demand of Millennial Generation  and Millennial Youths . Everyone is becoming an inspiration for the other. " DOING AND NO TO STOP " is the ongoing Mantra.
                       
                     Resent research in Stanford University will change our mindset . according to researchers today one need attitude than that of Intelligence Quotient . 

  People's core attitude fall under two categories : Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset .

               Peron who is possessing strong IQ but Fixed Mindset is not accepting challenge and accept that he can not face any trouble in life. Fixed attitude kind of person does not want to feel the demand of nature and this creates problem of hopelessness and  overwhelmed, as he don't want to handle challenge. change or you will get perish  is the law of nature  , one need to accept it , if one wants to walk , to run or to crawl then do but move forward , otherwise one can not survive
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                On the other hand if a person is having  Growth Mindset  can accept the challenge and do better performance than that of Fixed Mindset , even after he is having lower IQ , but it doesn't matter , as this type of personality polish himself time to time and don't allow himself to have any hurdles  in his way. he  accept challenges and do as much as he  can because he  feel challenges as opportunity and doing something new with new ideas, it is just because he is of Growth Mindset. Person with Growth Mindset open their arms to accept new challenges as opportunity .
  
               Success is not just like doing all the things and be successful all the time . Empowered person pursue their passions  relentlessly . If a person is successful and a person in unsuccessful then their no lack of smartness , no lack of intelligence but what is lacking is will power: a power of doing something with passion.

For eg: write 25 points and then from that filter 20 , then from that strain 15, the from that elect 10 and last choose 5 and this time 5 are prior to those 20 out of 25 . So now we come to know that prior of anything 5 are main for our life , which we need to achieve and this technique is called 25/5 technique given by WARREN BUFFET
            
                 Last but not least we belong to the Indian Society , from where physical bodies are doing research on moon , the only thing in them is Firm Determination or we can say Growth Mindset. If they than why we can not?

 Do you possess Growth Mindset or Fixed Mindset? Please give your important points in the box

How much does Employee Background Verification cost?

This is the number ONE question which we get from all our potential customers. This blog post will try to answer this question in the best possible way. The cost of the employee background verification depends primarily on: • Types of the checks selected • Number of each such check • Vendor selected Let us go through each of these to understand them better. Types of checks selected Employee background verification is NOT a ‘one size fits all’ solution. It is more like a buffet from which you pick and choose relevant checks. (The prices given below are NOT that of JantaKhoj specifically but of the broader industry.) Address checks: These include a physical visit to verify the residence (either permanent or current) and depending upon the vendor and the location, the pricing can vary from Rs 150 to 500 for every address to be verified. Employment checks: These include cross checking the employment history (including designation, tenure, salary, performance, behavioural aspects) with current and/or earlier employers. The pricing can vary from Rs 200 to Rs 400 for every employment to be verified. Reference checks: These cover getting the feedback from referees – suggested by employee or chosen independently. The pricing can vary from Rs 100 to Rs 300 for every reference to be checked. Education checks: These could refer to database based verification or direct verification with the educational institute (board, institute, university). The pricing can vary from Rs 400 to Rs 1000 and beyond, depending upon the mandatory university fees. Some vendors may offer verbal verification (without any documentary proof) which will generally be cheaper. Criminal checks (Police Station/Office): These are verifications done with local police station or office to ascertain if any criminal references exist against the candidate. The pricing can vary from Rs 400 to Rs 1000 and will typically cover the verification/certification charges levied by police (which vary from state to state). Caveat: the prices above are for domestic checks. International checks will typically tend to be more expensive. To keep the blog short, I will skip other specific checks like criminal database checks, drug screening, credit history, Social Media Scan. Number of each check selected Depending upon your specific requirements, you may opt for multiple checks of each type – for example, checking last three employers, checking all residences in last three years, checking all educational credentials from Class X up to Doctorate level. Typically you will be paying the price per check mentioned above multiplied by the number of checks, except in cases where the vendor may be able to offer a bundled price. Vendor selected Background verifications market is a competitive one and you can select your vendor right from the local single person shop to regional biggies on to national leaders. Typically the prices will tend to go higher as you move from local to regional to national level players. Caveat: this is a generalization and you will definitely find exceptions. I hope that by now you have a better idea of what you may end up paying for employee background verifications. Do share your comments and feedback.

Total Rewards aren’t just a Piece of Paper

There has been much written about Total Rewards as a means to show employees that companies invest more in them than just what they see in their paychecks. At many organizations, employees receive a number of different types of rewards such as health, dental, and life insurance, 401K matches, stock awards and other incentives, etc. And, I agree that it’s more impactful to present each employee with a piece of paper that lists all of these rewards and neatly depicts the total value to show how much the company appreciates them. However, delivering such a statement is only the scratching the surface of a Total Rewards approach to engagement and retention. Total Rewards is not just the ability to sum up compensation and benefits, it’s making sure that every dollar spent is being used effectively to get the maximum result for both the employee and the company. The desired result for an employee may be to increase the final amount on the Total Rewards statement, or to optimize the balance of reward types according to personal preference or needs. Either of these outcomes is dependent on providing employees with the right information, tools, and visibility to understand how their actions affect their Total Rewards. For example, through achieving their goals to get better merit increases or bonuses, or making smart benefits choices that gets them the best benefits for the least money. A Total Rewards statement, without empowering employees to affect their type and distribution, may be seen as simply a summation that employees feel they have little or no control over. As part of a Total Rewards strategy, that statement can become another communications vehicle between the company, the manager and the employee about their respective progress in optimizing the amount and balance of rewards to maximize engagement and performance. The goal for a company that has an effective Total Rewards strategy should be to get the maximum value out of every rewards dollar. I would define that maximum value as making the company as successful as possible with each dollar. Each dollar should be used to retain key employees, encourage them to work more effectively, and align what they are doing with the company’s mission and goals. I’ll suggest four ways to start doing that: Align compensation with goal achievement Differentiate rewards for disengaged, moderately engaged, and top performing employees Give managers tools to drive communications, alignment and better decisions in rewards Give employees the tools and information they need to make decisions on rewards that they select, such as healthcare elections It’s my experience that taking these steps starts the transformation from offering a Total Rewards statement –a piece of paper that an employee glances through and puts into a desk drawer – into executing on a Total Rewards strategy: leveraging the investments you make in your people to help drive top-line results and your company more successful.

Motivation : two face of coin : positive and Negetive

Remember the time when you first learnt to drive a car? If you are like most people, you are likely to have felt overwhelmed at first, trying to use your eyes, hands and feet in co-ordination, while keeping in mind so many new rules of the road, and also watching for people who might be breaking some of those rules! When you put conscious effort and repeatedly practiced driving, over time driving became automatic and effortless. Such is the case with learning any new skill. With sufficient practice, you have to put very little conscious effort to do the very same complex act.

The above is especially true with the way we think. Just like learning to drive effortlessly, over time, we condition our minds to think in a certain way. Given a certain situation, an automatic and effortless set of thoughts come to our mind, and that set of thoughts bring forth a dominant feeling. The time interval between the external event and the feeling it generates is very short, usually in fractions of seconds. The feeling that we feel in response to the external event seems so automatic, that we naturally attribute the external event to have caused that feeling.

It is thus no wonder then that we use phrases like “You made me feel bad”, “She hurt me”, “Bob made me very angry”, “My boss irritates me” etc. The common thing about the statements is that we experience ourselves as some object who is subjected to some experience without consciously choosing to feel in a certain way. It is as if someone or something outside of us magically generated some feeling within us.

What we do not realize that between the external stimuli and the feeling we felt, it is we who thought a set of thoughts that gave a certain meaning to the event, which consequently generated our feeling. Yes, those thoughts may have been automatic and conditioned, just like we sometimes drive our car between home and work without being fully aware of our actions. If however, you get into an accident while driving home one day, you are responsible for the accident whether you were driving with fully awareness or not. In the same way, whether you are conscious of your thoughts that led to your feeling or not, you are responsible for how you feel, as you are the only driver of your own thoughts, not someone else!

You may have observed that two people undergoing the same life experience can end up feeling quite different from each other. This is because each one of us has a different conditioned thought response based on our past. The reason many of us do not feel in control of our emotions is that all our lives, we have programmed ourselves to think in dis-empowering ways. Once we become aware of our conditioned thoughts between stimulus and response, we can get complete control of our life back. This means that years of conditioned responses need to be unlearnt, and new empowered thinking habits needs to be put in it's place. This is like unlearning earlier habits of risky and dangerous driving and re-learning to drive safely.

Just like learning to drive, it does take quite some effort to reprogram ourselves to think in empowered ways, but the results are well worth it in the end. When we take charge of the way we think, instead of being victims of our life, we get complete control of how we feel in various life situations and thus become powerful creators of our own life.

Behavior drives us at different situation but we should think over that...........

Remember the time when you first learnt to drive a car? If you are like most people, you are likely to have felt overwhelmed at first, trying to use your eyes, hands and feet in co-ordination, while keeping in mind so many new rules of the road, and also watching for people who might be breaking some of those rules! When you put conscious effort and repeatedly practiced driving, over time driving became automatic and effortless. Such is the case with learning any new skill. With sufficient practice, you have to put very little conscious effort to do the very same complex act.

The above is especially true with the way we think. Just like learning to drive effortlessly, over time, we condition our minds to think in a certain way. Given a certain situation, an automatic and effortless set of thoughts come to our mind, and that set of thoughts bring forth a dominant feeling. The time interval between the external event and the feeling it generates is very short, usually in fractions of seconds. The feeling that we feel in response to the external event seems so automatic, that we naturally attribute the external event to have caused that feeling.

It is thus no wonder then that we use phrases like “You made me feel bad”, “She hurt me”, “Bob made me very angry”, “My boss irritates me” etc. The common thing about the statements is that we experience ourselves as some object who is subjected to some experience without consciously choosing to feel in a certain way. It is as if someone or something outside of us magically generated some feeling within us.

What we do not realize that between the external stimuli and the feeling we felt, it is we who thought a set of thoughts that gave a certain meaning to the event, which consequently generated our feeling. Yes, those thoughts may have been automatic and conditioned, just like we sometimes drive our car between home and work without being fully aware of our actions. If however, you get into an accident while driving home one day, you are responsible for the accident whether you were driving with fully awareness or not. In the same way, whether you are conscious of your thoughts that led to your feeling or not, you are responsible for how you feel, as you are the only driver of your own thoughts, not someone else!

You may have observed that two people undergoing the same life experience can end up feeling quite different from each other. This is because each one of us has a different conditioned thought response based on our past. The reason many of us do not feel in control of our emotions is that all our lives, we have programmed ourselves to think in dis-empowering ways. Once we become aware of our conditioned thoughts between stimulus and response, we can get complete control of our life back. This means that years of conditioned responses need to be unlearnt, and new empowered thinking habits needs to be put in it's place. This is like unlearning earlier habits of risky and dangerous driving and re-learning to drive safely.

Just like learning to drive, it does take quite some effort to reprogram ourselves to think in empowered ways, but the results are well worth it in the end. When we take charge of the way we think, instead of being victims of our life, we get complete control of how we feel in various life situations and thus become powerful creators of our own life.

How do we decide what spiritual truth/teaching to believe in?

 How do we decide what spiritual truth/teaching to believe in?
For an intellectual student who is new to spirituality/meta-physics/religion, it is always a challenge as to how he can come to accept/believe in teachings that he is not able to yet comprehend or experience himself. While faith is advocated by the masters, how can the student be sure that in the name of faith he is not being brainwashed?

From time to time we hear of “Godmen” misleading and exploiting innocent, unwary people with the promise of some spiritual growth or material prosperity. Then there are other people who have been introduced to religions/philosophies that are deep rooted in fear, which do not give any satisfactory logical explanations behind the spiritual practices involved. Some students of these faiths who survived many years of “brainwashing” finally come to realize the falsities of their beliefs and thus come to highly resent the system they were in, to the extent that they come to associate a negative connotation with any spiritual practice, or even using the word “God”. Clearly having “blind faith” in some system did not help these people.

On the other hand, there are “intellectuals” who will not believe in anything unless it is proved scientifically. With these people, anything that cannot be seen or heard or touched or smelt or tasted is instantly rejected as false. Some of these "intellectuals" judge others following religious or spiritual practices as “emotional fools” who cannot think for themselves. Anything that cannot be explained in physical terms is rejected outright, and anything non-scientific is dealt with in a cynical manner. Due to a closed mind, these people never grow to a level where they come to appreciate and experience higher truths that are beyond the limitations of science at the moment.

Clearly both approaches come with some limitations as well as risks. So, which of the two approaches should one follow? Should we be blindly accepting of the spiritual teachers or be very closed minded?

Here is a venn diagram representing truths and untruths, which can help to understand the problem in a visual way.
• The orange circle represents all truths (T)
• The red circle represents scientific truths (S)
• Anything that is outside of the orange circle (shaded white) is an untruth (U)

What we observe from the diagram is that:
1. Scientific truth (Red circle), is a subset of total truths (Orange circle) As science advances, the red circle will expand more and more into the orange circle.
2. Due to the nature of science that is limited to the physical, it may not be possible for non-physical truths that are included in spirituality/meta-physics to ever become part of science.
3. Just because something is not yet proved scientifically, it does not mean it is not true. Truth is truth, and is beyond science, and thus rejecting something in the orange circle because it does not fall under the red circle is very limiting and illogical.
4. Many non-scientific metaphysical truths require us to grow beyond our current physical and mental limitations. If we never give it a chance with sincere faith, we will never experience it’s benefits. As saint Augustine said “Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe”
5. At the same time, when we encounter something that is not scientific, we want to make sure that we are not blindly believing in it as well. We want to make sure that something that is an untruth (white background) is not something that we are blindly believing, to our own disadvantage.

Scientific truths (red circle) are proven and all of us know it for a fact. When we encounter a new truth that is beyond what science has proven today, we need to come up with a balanced way of looking at it such that we are neither being overly cynical and thus rejecting it, nor accepting something in blind faith. A healthy level of skepticism is thus a good balance between the two extreme approaches of blind faith and being cynical of what we cannot currently comprehend.

Here are some practical questions we can ask ourselves that can help us determine whether we should accept or reject a truth being taught:

1) What do other philosophies/religions say about the same truth?
Whatever is common between various spiritual practices can be safely accepted as the truth, as it it highly unlikely that hundreds of wise spiritual masters, over thousands of years, belonging to various religions/spiritual/cultural traditions can succeed in speaking the same lie.

2) Does the teaching/philosophy offer rational explanations to common doubts or does it use fear as a way to get people to act in a certain way?
If it is fear based, do not accept it. The student must be able to obtain a rational answer to his genuine doubts, which can include the explanation that certain things can only be subjectively/experientially understood, and it is not possible to prove it objectively.

3) Does the teaching agree with your reasoning?
Give the teaching a fair chance, ask all questions and get clear answers. If the reasoning does not agree with your intellect, then reject it.

As the Buddha said:
“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it."